Ask The Wife

I recently went to the doctor. I was getting a consultation on some elective surgery. My girlfriend went with me because she is of course concerned about me and my health. While there we saw some things that were in our opinion were just weird. There were a few married couples waiting and filling out the mountain of paper work that always seems to come with a doctors visit. We noticed that I was the only male filling out his own papers. All the married guys had there wives doing it for them. Not only were they handle the papers they were on the phone with the referring doctors offices and handling insurance issues. All the while the men sat and read magazines. I thought to myself is this what happens when you get married? Do you become incapable of doing things for yourself? Then I thought about the married men in my family. My mom doesn't take complete care of my dad but she does keep him on the straight and narrow with his health. Things like keeping up with his doctors visits and taking his medications. I think my brother would be totally lost without his wife. She is the organized one that keeps the house running and the bills paid. A few short years ago he was single and taking care of these things himself. I can't tell you how many times I have heard him say that he goes to work and his wife takes care of the money. Do we just get tired of taking care of ourselves? Do we miss our mommy's and want a women to take care of us? If I were to ask my girlfriend she would have filled out my papers for me. We live together and she knows everything about me. Even she was shocked at the sight of this one wife that was carrying her husbands cell phone for him. The phone rang she took out of her purse and handed to him. She didn't even look to see who was calling. It was amazing.

I'm not sure I could ever be like these men. I have come accustomed to doing things for myself. Maybe it has something to do with being a single parent. Perhaps we misunderstood those situations. Everyone in a family has their roll to play. Maybe the role of these women was to take the burden of these things off their husbands. Maybe by the same logic when they get home their husbands chop wood and fix cars and other manly things. Kind of an old fashion type of family. Regardless I don't see me doing this. Don't get me wrong I don't see a problem with a wife taking care of her husband and maybe when my children are grown I will change my way of thinking. It's hard not to be a take control type of person when so many depend on you. I think the first thing I would let go of is cooking. I cook for my children every night and it would be nice to have a wife to take care of some of that. Not to mention the hair stylist duties that come with being a single father of two girls.